Posts Tagged ‘Childfree’

I just spent about an hour at a local Waldorf school. My landlords’ kids school was holding a Holiday Faire and I was invited to come check it out. Now I’m usually down for the arts, different foods and people watching of these festivals so I figured why not. I will be keeping a good relationship with my landlord plus, I might be able to get some Christmas shopping done.

When I got there, I hear kids screaming as they have fun on the playground and the older kids in groups as they chat about teen stuff. While I was there I visited the tea room and the gift store. At the tea room, they ran out of hot water, coffee and hot chocolate. So I walked up and down the pastries table filling up my plate with organic, gluten free, sugar free pieces of curiosity. When I finally got some hot water for my tea bag, I sat in a 3rd graders desk listening to a students guitar playing and of course eavesdropping on other people’s conversations. Whoever these people where they were; short tempered, pushy, inconsiderate, and hella selfish. I sat there feeling myself get stiff with stress.

The gift store was no better; kids talking loudly, parents pushing me out of the way to see a products, and just a large selection of overpriced hippie stuff.

After only that hour of being completely submerged in kidom I am more stressed than when I got there. And I’m the type of person who gets tired when I’m stressed. So I am this close to calling off my dinner in 2 hours. I just want to sleep all of this anxiety away from the whole experience. In fact, I know I wasn’t the only one who was stressed out there. When I was leaving I overheard a man talk to someone on the phone saying that he hears her yelling on the phone and he doesn’t want to get into it right now…. yup

Life is way less stressful without kids. I am so happy to be childfree.

I’m pretty much curious as well as confused about the whole Female Sterilization procedure.
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I am curious because:

• I do not like putting all those extra hormones in my body every day.
• I want to be sure I’m not going to get pregnant.
• I do not want to have kids now and I don’t foresee me having kids in the future.

But then I’m also confused because:

• I am going to be permanently altering my body. (Even tattoos scare me)
• It’s a surgery! What if something goes wrong?!

Since I don’t have medical insurance to help fix me if anything goes wrong and I don’t have the money to pay for it, I would rather opt for a copper IUD.

I would rather be responsible for being on birth control then believing the guy is doing everything right. Since I would be the one having to deal with the “mistake” I’d rather prevent any mistakes before they start.

The types of birth control I’ve practiced varies:

• The Pill (Yaz, Ortho Tri-cyclen Lo, Loestrin)
• The NuvaRing
• A diaphragm
• Birth control patch
• Female condom / male condom
• Coitus Interruptus

And I refuse to use the shot or the implants. eww creepy

The type of birth control I really want to use is to have an IUD.  But because of my age and the fact that I never had given birth, the people at Planned Parenthood don’t really want me to use it.  And that makes me very sad…they don’t want to make me happy. Maybe I should give them an ultimatum; either give me ParaGard or Sterilize me permanently. Then we’ll see what they say. muahaha

I had been with my last boyfriend for over 4.5 years. Many of his traditional Catholic family expected that we would get married then start having kids. And he had the same future belief for us as his family did. Sadly, our relationship had to come to an end because I understood his reasons for wanting kids; they were completely contradicting my future lifestyle beliefs (even though I was also baptized Catholic).

• He wanted to experience taking care of a helpless kid – I didn’t want to devote my time and effort to someone other then my relationship
• He wanted to provide for a kid and give her the life he didn’t have – I want to enrich my own life because that is what my parents provided to me
• He was an only child and wants to have a dual child family – I had a younger brother whom I helped rear and I do not want to do it again
• He knows it’s going to be hard work and dedication – I dedicate my life to my partner and work hard at my career and our relationship
• He wants someone to look up to him and look to him for answers – I think it’s silly that people have to create someone that looks up to them whereas I build up my personal and professional relationships with my peers

These types of things are internal desires that he feels he needs to fulfill in order to live a full life. I, on the other hand, feel that caring for children is not all that it’s made up to be. I’m not going to try and convince him my way is right. Neither should he and his family try to convince me their way is right. The idea of doing what’s right is founded by societal, religious and family presures, but I choose to pick my own “right”. Now please stop trying to convince me of something I don’t believe.

Interesting fact: I find that people who think “you have to have kids” are the most close minded people I’ve met.