I just came back from spending the weekend at my best friends house. She is recently engaged and has a very unique way of thinking of marriage.

Her idea of marriage is to show her man she is dedicated to him. And she also thinks the ceremony and reception is completely showy and too selfish for her to justify the large quantity of money. So what this means is she doesn’t believe in the religious part of a marriage but more the piece of paper. She also does not believe in the “to death do you part” saying in vows but more the “let’s make this work because I’m worth it” mentality. As you can imagine, her ceremony is expected to be smaller and quite possibly in Las Vegas. Then afterwards have a small wedding party with other friends and family members who couldn’t make the trip.

After knowing my best friend for as long as she’s been alive (25 years), I have to say that I respect her choices in saving money and also her idea on marriage vows. I would normally say that people who get engaged and married within 1 year is definitely rushing … for what? But she doesn’t have the standard stupid female perspective of:

• a better life post marriage
• wants the wedding ceremony and reception attention
• wedding gifts
• wants to take care of a baby
• wants the rings
• get away from the parents
• or any other selfish and materialistic reasons females pressure their men into getting married…

Oh, females pressuring their men into the engagement is the trend with all my younger friends. But that is a whole other story I will have to tell you about later. :o)

Anyways, I would like to say that I respect people who stand up for what they think is right. Especially when they take the time to explain to me their reasoning and the overall feeling of self control towards their personal happiness. I am so happy for her and her less than selfish decisions for rushing into a marriage.