A Childfree City

Where I live, I rent a room from a single mother and her 1.5 children. I say 1.5 because one of the kids spends half of the time at the fathers house while the other kid stays with the mom all of the time.

Well, I moved in because this place was within 2 miles of work, extremely affordable and allowed overnight guests (which is rarely allowed by other renters). Since the kids were older at 12 years and 14 years old I thought things would be more calm and quite. And life living here IS pretty calm and quiet … except for the mornings when the mother tries to get the kids ready for school.

One time the youngest kid lost his plate of breakfast somewhere in the house. This morning the youngest locked the bathroom door while taking a shower and asked his mom to get more shampoo. So I woke up to the mother explaining to the youngest that there might be some hotel shampoos somewhere in there – all the while her trying to get in. Then I hear the youngest ask, “Can I use this bottle with blue stuff in it?”  Then I hear the mother let out a sigh and say “No hun, that is hair gel.”

I’m glad I’m opting out of all that.

It seems that everyone I talk to dreads the same part of the holidays – their family. What is it about our family that keeps us so tense and on edge?

Different Personalities

Families are usually made up of a large range of different personalities. So when we get all of these different personalities together in a small space (eg. your house) it is harder to avoid personalities that you don’t mesh well with. For example; I am open-minded, intelligent, half introvert / extrovert, and will start a conversation when there is long silence – where as the personalities that I don’t mesh well with are close-minded, “think” they’re smart, extroverts that need to control the conversation at all times.

How to Deal with Insensitive Extroverts

The best way to deal with these insensitive extroverts is to try to have fun with them. Make your life like a television show and use that persons personality against them for the entertainment of the audience. What I like doing is actually listen to what they’re saying, their tone and demeanor, then mention any inconsistencies. “I find it interesting that you lowered your voice when you talked about Mr. Smith. Why is that?”

Doing this should make them stop to THINK about their delivery. But the hilarious part about doing this is seeing that small speck of vulnerability in their eye as they play back the conversation in their head. To a person who wants to strong arm a conversation, showing vulnerability is a bit of control that you’ve taken away from them. Many insensitive extroverts try to regain control in different ways and it’s funny to guess what they will try to do before they do it. So make this a game and have fun with these people you are being forced to associate with. Make bets with family members how long it will take for that person to walk away, start yelling or call you names in retaliation. LOL this is what I do to the 2 insensitive extroverts in my immediate family, and I hope you have as much fun as I do!

Trying to stay sane this holiday season can be easier if you make a game out of it. In this case, a comedy television show based on your life. So have fun with it!

I have heard many people talk about the absolute necessity that women need to have a companion. Whether this companion is human or animal, women just feel the urge to care-take and not be alone.

Now I find that very “needy” and unreliant on ones-self ability to keep occupied, but I think I understand now. I’ve been broken up with my boyfriend for over a month now and I found that my last “time of the month” was just so incredibly difficult for me. Upon calling my mother she told me that sever depression and sporadic crying is just an inherent craziness. Thanks mom.

So this made me think, do women feel like they need to have a child because they get depressed every month? Their hormones tell them there is absolutely no way for us to survive the rest of the day unless we conceive right then and there. I find this very interesting that we have been programed to feel needy right when we are most vulnerable.

To tell you the truth, I would rather get a cute puppy than a screaming baby to be my companion. At least this way I can have fun while I’m feeling needy, as opposed to staring at the baby staring back at me. That doesn’t sound fun or exciting at all.

I few years ago I ordered my passport and have used it twice so far. Now that I’m building my career I find it hard to take a week or two off for travels. But I’m sure if someone were to invite me along, I can make the arrangement work.

Ideally, I would like to find some guys that travel for business and maybe tag along with them while he pays for everything. What I am most scared of is my safety. Business men should be law abiding citizens, but some look for loopholes to slip through. And I don’t want to be one of those loopholes that gets misplaced.

To prepare for a trip I will have to hang out with him beforehand and take extra precautions before I leave. Maybe tell my roommate about my trip and if I don’t come home on time or am unreachable, give some info to authorities to start my search. Then everything should be fine. Right?