Relationships

I am watching “Love, Marriage and Stinking Thinking” on local tv for the first time where the topic is “too young to get married”.  They are saying that people should get married sooner because of the reproductive system health, grandparents and majority vote. Which means waiting till you are financially stable in your career to raise a child is too chancy.

Reproductive system health – 60% of the kids born from 18-25 year old parents have the ability to live to 100 years old. (study not resourced)

Grandparents – Grandparents are the glue that helps couples to raise grand kids. Have kids younger so the grandparents are healthy enough to take care of them.

Majority vote – He said that since Christians don’t think like everyone else they need to have more than 2 kids to represent the church in the future. This will ultimately out populate the “Pagans” and the “heathens”.

Career vs God – If you wait till you are happy in your career your reproductive system might not allow you to have kids. So you will have to explain to God that you were too selfish to have kids.

What I have to say about this:

First off, when I watch a show like this I think about what their motive is. I have decided that the motive for this episode is to bread for the good of the church. So when he said to have kids sooner he was only thinking of the long term representation of the church.  He justified that the grandparents will be there to help the young married couples to raise the grand-kids physically, emotionally and financially.

I don’t believe that having kids should burden more then the parents. Kids should not be willingly brought into this world thinking the responsibility of the kids should be passed off to others. I think it’s great if the grandparents want to help, but I think it’s selfish for the church and the parents to blindly rely on the grandparents to help. I believe that it is healthy for the new family to be financially stable in order to afford the child. Even if the chances of having kids decrease with age, I believe God would understand that you had to take care of your own health and well-being before trying to bring another human being into this world.

I just came back from spending the weekend at my best friends house. She is recently engaged and has a very unique way of thinking of marriage.

Her idea of marriage is to show her man she is dedicated to him. And she also thinks the ceremony and reception is completely showy and too selfish for her to justify the large quantity of money. So what this means is she doesn’t believe in the religious part of a marriage but more the piece of paper. She also does not believe in the “to death do you part” saying in vows but more the “let’s make this work because I’m worth it” mentality. As you can imagine, her ceremony is expected to be smaller and quite possibly in Las Vegas. Then afterwards have a small wedding party with other friends and family members who couldn’t make the trip.

After knowing my best friend for as long as she’s been alive (25 years), I have to say that I respect her choices in saving money and also her idea on marriage vows. I would normally say that people who get engaged and married within 1 year is definitely rushing … for what? But she doesn’t have the standard stupid female perspective of:

• a better life post marriage
• wants the wedding ceremony and reception attention
• wedding gifts
• wants to take care of a baby
• wants the rings
• get away from the parents
• or any other selfish and materialistic reasons females pressure their men into getting married…

Oh, females pressuring their men into the engagement is the trend with all my younger friends. But that is a whole other story I will have to tell you about later. :o)

Anyways, I would like to say that I respect people who stand up for what they think is right. Especially when they take the time to explain to me their reasoning and the overall feeling of self control towards their personal happiness. I am so happy for her and her less than selfish decisions for rushing into a marriage.

What’s my view on marriage and weddings?

Well I think I believe in the idea of a marriage. That you dedicate yourself solely to another and promise to take care of each other for the rest of your lives. However, I’m not a fan of the name change or the joint financial annual filing. eh

Weddings, are just so expensive that it’s almost easy not to like them. I think weddings, including the ceremony and the reception, are more show-offish then they really need to be. Hence the high price tag. What I don’t get is how women spend $1k to $10k on a wedding dress and hide it behind a $40 bouquet of overpriced flowers. I think brides who really care about their dress should not cover it with some, dare I say it, weeds. haha

Here are some pictures of some beautiful brides with their bouquet being so eye catching that their gown is barely even noticeable. Is that how you want to be remembered? The bride with a very beautiful $40 bouquet?

Here are a few square / princess cut diamond rings that I picked out in 2007 from the Zales website. I wonder how my tastes will change in the future?