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Get married younger so you can have kids

I am watching "Love, Marriage and Stinking Thinking" on local tv for the first time where the topic is "too young to get married".  They are saying that people should get married sooner because of the reproductive system health, grandparents and majority vote. Which means waiting till you are financially stable in your career to raise a child is too chancy.

Reproductive system health - 60% of the kids born from 18-25 year old parents have the ability to live to 100 years old. (study not resourced)

Grandparents - Grandparents are the glue that helps couples to raise grand kids. Have kids younger so the grandparents are healthy enough to take care of them.

Majority vote - He said that since Christians don't think like everyone else they need to have more than 2 kids to represent the church in the future. This will ultimately out populate the "Pagans" and the "heathens".

Career vs God - If you wait till you are happy in your career your reproductive system might not allow you to have kids. So you will have to explain to God that you were too selfish to have kids.

What I have to say about this:

First off, when I watch a show like this I think about what their motive is. I have decided that the motive for this episode is to bread for the good of the church. So when he said to have kids sooner he was only thinking of the long term representation of the church.  He justified that the grandparents will be there to help the young married couples to raise the grand-kids physically, emotionally and financially.

I don't believe that having kids should burden more then the parents. Kids should not be willingly brought into this world thinking the responsibility of the kids should be passed off to others. I think it's great if the grandparents want to help, but I think it's selfish for the church and the parents to blindly rely on the grandparents to help. I believe that it is healthy for the new family to be financially stable in order to afford the child. Even if the chances of having kids decrease with age, I believe God would understand that you had to take care of your own health and well-being before trying to bring another human being into this world.